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Originally Posted by jewels443
Raising your voice is not abusive. Just because a child may not have seen someone exercising authority or even anger and it scares them doesn't make it wrong. Sure, it'd be great if we were all perfect, no one lost their cool and we never had to raise our voices, but sometimes it happens. And it's not abuse.
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I agree that raising your voice is not abusive. And just because they were scared doesn't make it abuse either.
Having both kids in the car being quiet for several minutes then exploding into a tirade is not the above, though. Skutch did the right thing originally and handled the situation quite well. Once everything was under control, however, he exploded with no provocation. THAT'S the abusive situation. There was no provocation for it - the tantrum was over and everyone was quiet. He caused the second problem, not his daughter. She wasn't the cause of his rage, just the focus.
Skutch - I sincerely hope that this was just an isolated incident. We all have moments where we just have too much on our plate and snap. It happens to the best of us, as jewels implied. It doesn't make you a bad person, just human - if it's an isolated incident. You know much better than any of us whether it is or isn't. Like I said, I'd love for you to tell us that it is, but you at least need to pause for a moment of self-criticism to ponder whether or not you have an anger issue. The incident you described could have come out of a textbook describing rage issues.