She has no evidence of abuse or neglect because I'm not abusive or neglectful (yeah I know thats just words). I guess if yelling is considered abuse nowadays then so be it. (And I hardly ever raise my voice to them, period.) She told her mom and her teachers at school about it, and how I'm a bad person. My daughter apparently got so upset last summer one day when I was coming to pick both kids up (a few days after the incident) that the camp/school called child protective services. My daughter told the social worker that she (daughter) thought I needed to be punished for yelling at her, and that I deserved not to see her because of it.
Yes, I have a lawyer. I'm in the process of getting another lawyer because the first one hasn't been aggressive enough in my opinion. My ex and I agreed (with our lawyers present) for a social worker to evaluate the situation, but I just found out yesterday that the social worker is unable to provide legal material (her notes and observations) to the court, and my lawyer knew this (he recommened it), so I have no impartial evidence to bring before the judge. 5 months down the drain, plus legal expenses.
I'm not too impressed with the social worker. Her thing is that she's there to help my daughter period, and wants to hear nothing about the backstory. Fine, but wouldn't one think it important to understand some of the history that led up to all this, and indeed, is perpetuating it? They play these self-esteem card games where they're supposed to get my daughter expressing her feelings and emotions. I asked her if going to the social worker makes her feel any better and she said no.
I'm thinking about getting a private detective to check out the boyfriend.
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