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Apparently I'm spoiling for an argument at the moment, so I must ask:
"The man in her life?" I ask this sincerely... what does that mean? I have a dad, and I have a husband. They are both part of my life, as are many other important men who are parts of my life. My husband did not "take" my dad's place, by any means... that would be freaking weird. Nor do I need either of them in order to have a "life," at least not in the 21st century. So I could use some clarification... my apologies if my tone is overly critical here, but the point is important.
Also, would you be comfortable with your future bride asking your mother for your hand, because she'd be replacing your mom as the "woman in your life?" That is the only way that I can see this as not being a patriarchal/oppressive tradition, I guess...
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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran
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