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pig · 01-26-2008, 01:37 PM

hmmm...based on what's been posted, I have to disagree with ratbastid for the first time. The behavior you describe on her part would be unacceptable to me, and I'd definitely have cut contact with her if she went off to spring break (where was her kid during this?), and fucked some other guy. Fat or skinny. Friend or foe. She gets back from "Spring Break," and dates the guy she fucked on her escape trip? Fuck that.

Now, as to what I'd do in your situation? If I cared about her and accepted that she was a fucking wreck in some ways, I'd forgive her and accept her as she is. I don't know that I'd be willing to get back in a relationship with her, but I'd probably be her friend. Being someone's friend, to me, implies accepting them if they are a fuckup sometimes. I can accept my girlfriend being a fuckup sometimes, but there are certain lines that can't be crossed. This chick crossed one of them. If you're going to ever have a relationship with this girl, trust has to be re-established. You can't just magically grant trust to someone. It's earned. So you can begin that process, and I see nothing to really lose...but I wouldn't start fucking her...or if I did, I'd put it in my mind that I was only fucking her (with a jimmy on) and that it didn't mean anything more. I wouldn't pretend that it did to her, and I'd tell her that I have serious issues with trusting her, for obvious reasons.

Mostly, from what you post, this girl needs to do some serious thinking about her lifestyle and what she's passing on to her kid. But it sounds like she need a good old-fashioned "Come to Jesus" moment...and you can't control the timing of those. Until that happens, you're taking a high-risk gamble if you date her. However, there's no point in hating someone for being who they are. If I cared for her as much as you seem to...and I have female friends like this...I'd forgive her and accept her and be her friend...I don't know that I could trust her enough to be in a relationship.

01-26-2008, 01:37 PM	#33 (permalink)
pig pigglet pigglet Location: Locash	hmmm...based on what's been posted, I have to disagree with ratbastid for the first time. The behavior you describe on her part would be unacceptable to me, and I'd definitely have cut contact with her if she went off to spring break (where was her kid during this?), and fucked some other guy. Fat or skinny. Friend or foe. She gets back from "Spring Break," and dates the guy she fucked on her escape trip? Fuck that. Now, as to what I'd do in your situation? If I cared about her and accepted that she was a fucking wreck in some ways, I'd forgive her and accept her as she is. I don't know that I'd be willing to get back in a relationship with her, but I'd probably be her friend. Being someone's friend, to me, implies accepting them if they are a fuckup sometimes. I can accept my girlfriend being a fuckup sometimes, but there are certain lines that can't be crossed. This chick crossed one of them. If you're going to ever have a relationship with this girl, trust has to be re-established. You can't just magically grant trust to someone. It's earned. So you can begin that process, and I see nothing to really lose...but I wouldn't start fucking her...or if I did, I'd put it in my mind that I was only fucking her (with a jimmy on) and that it didn't mean anything more. I wouldn't pretend that it did to her, and I'd tell her that I have serious issues with trusting her, for obvious reasons. Mostly, from what you post, this girl needs to do some serious thinking about her lifestyle and what she's passing on to her kid. But it sounds like she need a good old-fashioned "Come to Jesus" moment...and you can't control the timing of those. Until that happens, you're taking a high-risk gamble if you date her. However, there's no point in hating someone for being who they are. If I cared for her as much as you seem to...and I have female friends like this...I'd forgive her and accept her and be her friend...I don't know that I could trust her enough to be in a relationship. __________________ You don't love me, you just love my piggy style