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Crompsin's reply is shockingly well thought-out.
I don't really get the whole 'saving yourself for marriage' deal. Not to get down on you or your husband; it is your choice to make, after all. On the other hand, sex is what it is. I don't know anyone who brags about their first time, as it's not generally very good. And the more you build it up, the higher your expectations will be. Turning it into some kind of ritual just seems like a bad idea, as far as I'm concerned.
My ranting aside, the best advice has already been given it seems. Go slow, communicate, etc. Not being a woman I don't really have any advice regarding the specifics of the discomfort you'll feel, but it's my understanding that the first time nearly always sucks but that it gets better fairly quickly after that.
Also, huge yes when it comes to self-exploration. Masturbation is not a dirty word. See, guys are pretty easy to figure out when it comes to making us happy in the sack; the way to do it stands out a bit, if you catch my meaning. Women are a lot less obvious and it's also my experience that there's a lot more variation in what women prefer, sexually speaking. So how can your husband be expected to get you all wet and wild if you don't even know how to do it for yourself? Figure out what you like and don't like in advance so that you can make his job a bit easier when the time comes. If you can communicate to him what revs your engine you'll both be better off.
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