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I went through this recently with my grandfather, although it turned out the original diagnosis said he had 3 to 6 months, in reality he died 3 weeks from the diagnosis. This happened the week before final exams this past Fall semester at Texas Tech. I ended up driving from Lubbock to DFW to catch a flight home to Atlanta with my mom to be sure we were there. What's worse is when you're not able to be with the person because they're so far away so if she's local to your girlfriend that's a blessing. So be prepared for that as well. Also James and I were apart when I had to deal with the loss of him and all by myself, go to the funeral by myself and just be alone a lot and it was a lot harder. It makes you feel a world better when you have the arms of someone to hold you during such a rough time and a shoulder to cry on. It's a very big deal and as the others have said the best thing to do is be available to her. Let her talk about her grandma. But also remind her that when she does pass it will be for the better since she won't be in pain anymore, at least that was my Granddads situation, he had cancer in 4 different places. Hope she can be alright when dealing with this. Also this was my first major loss to my family when I had known him since I could remember, my other set of grandparents passed when I was very young. Tell her to be thankful for the time they have now.
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