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I truly feel for you. But I've been on both sides of this situation and you may not like this.
Let her go. Although it may feel unresolved, it's obvious that she's given this a lot of thought. Women, in general, tend to want to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work and she may have been trying to say express something for a long time, or trying to make you see how she's felt. Sometimes we're blinded within the comfort of a relationship and don't see it coming. By the time the other party realizes what's happened, it's too late. The trust is gone because in the mind of the Leaving Party, they feel the other should have known what to do to make all things right, but they didn't and we run away feeling misunderstood. It's a symptom of lack of communication in the relationship, which makes both of you responsible.
She may change her mind, but most likely she won't. Once a gal's made her decision, you can pretty much rely on it. Don't try to convince her, give her that space she needs. If she can come to a realization and is willing to talk again, there's a chance. If you stay in touch, don't bring up anything serious but take cues from her.
I hope I'm dead wrong and do wish you strength to get through this, no matter what happens. I'm going through just about the same for some time now and I won't tell you it's easy.
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We are always more anxious to be distinguished for a talent which we do not possess, than to be praised for the fifteen which we do possess.
Mark Twain
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