I would do what was already suggested, and have a commitment ceremony followed by one hell of a party!! As far as living arrangements...I guess if there is no way to cohabitate without losing benefits, is there a way you can live closer together?
I'm assuming you're both under Medicare..I know they have a maximum income allowance before they cancel your benefits. I know they will shut them off if you get married because they figure your spouse's income will cover you. That's why so many widowed couples don't actually marry...but I have seen them cohabitate. Maybe medicare isn't aware? Perhaps one of them is using a different mailing address, like that of a family member, but they are really living with their new partner... I'm not suggesting that you deceive Medicare or anything, but.....any chance of having a nearby relative with a sympathetic heart?
