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HN420 · 12-21-2007, 02:20 PM

So this is one of my first posts here and like I said in the friday thread I'm pretty bored lol. I was just wondering what you guys and gals think of this situation:

In real life I have been dating this wonderful woman for 15yr's now [I'm 25 and she's 26]. We're both handicap [She has a rare brital bone disease, and I have an unknown form of Muscular Dystrophy] but we both enjoy our relationship with each other.

Like everyone else we have really big dreams, but with the way the world works today those dreams are likely to remain just that. We both live with our families, me with my grandparents and we only see each other around 3 times per year.

To keep our relationship strong we talk every night for hours over the phone, and we play online video games together so we can "see" each other daily. On my 24th birthday I spent the weekend at her place and proposed to her, she said yes and believe me those 10 seconds seemed like an eternity.

Now this is where things are not so good. With our medical conditions we cannot be alone and need nurses and aides to care for us, but neither of us can work. We can't work not because we choose not to, but because due to state laws [me in Louisiana, and her in Mississippi] we could only make $50 per month. If we were to make any more we could lose our medical benefits, now as for as the marriage thing goes. Again due to laws if we got married legally we would lose all of our medical benefits as well because mariiage would make us healthy all of a sudden.

So we can't get married due to money issues and we cannot get married due to laws, so we decided that as long as we're together we've already been married. Out of the 2 of us she is deffininetly the stronger one while I'm the one that is always asking "what if...?". To keep our dream of having a wedding, even if its not legally signed, we have been writing letters to different television shows...maybe one day our dream can come true, even if it means still living apart.

So if you were in our situation, what would you do?
-D.

12-21-2007, 02:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
HN420 Upright	Not Normal Circumstances. So this is one of my first posts here and like I said in the friday thread I'm pretty bored lol. I was just wondering what you guys and gals think of this situation: In real life I have been dating this wonderful woman for 15yr's now [I'm 25 and she's 26]. We're both handicap [She has a rare brital bone disease, and I have an unknown form of Muscular Dystrophy] but we both enjoy our relationship with each other. Like everyone else we have really big dreams, but with the way the world works today those dreams are likely to remain just that. We both live with our families, me with my grandparents and we only see each other around 3 times per year. To keep our relationship strong we talk every night for hours over the phone, and we play online video games together so we can "see" each other daily. On my 24th birthday I spent the weekend at her place and proposed to her, she said yes and believe me those 10 seconds seemed like an eternity. Now this is where things are not so good. With our medical conditions we cannot be alone and need nurses and aides to care for us, but neither of us can work. We can't work not because we choose not to, but because due to state laws [me in Louisiana, and her in Mississippi] we could only make $50 per month. If we were to make any more we could lose our medical benefits, now as for as the marriage thing goes. Again due to laws if we got married legally we would lose all of our medical benefits as well because mariiage would make us healthy all of a sudden. So we can't get married due to money issues and we cannot get married due to laws, so we decided that as long as we're together we've already been married. Out of the 2 of us she is deffininetly the stronger one while I'm the one that is always asking "what if...?". To keep our dream of having a wedding, even if its not legally signed, we have been writing letters to different television shows...maybe one day our dream can come true, even if it means still living apart. So if you were in our situation, what would you do? -D.