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Forgiving is an act of understanding for me. To know a person is to trust a person. It's about being able to predict behavior from people.
When I don't understand a motive behind an offending action it puts a strain on me. It keeps me wondering what other surprises might come along. I can't trust that kind of individual. Which creates distance between us.
My father is like that. I don't get him. I can't predict his responses. So I don't trust him. So I shut him out of my life to a large degree. I still love him. I keep him close but far away if you know what I mean.
Food for though.
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