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Originally Posted by willravel
So then I guess the question is: what's worth more to me, letting it go or keeping it?
That's a toughie. I'll admit that the idea of simply letting it go doesn't seem just, but at the same time, harboring frustrations also aren't just. I'll talk to him about it tomorrow. Then I'll leave him at the doctor's office.  |
The question to ask yourself--if you're really interested in getting honest with yourself about this, which most human beings frankly aren't--is this: what is it REALLY costing you to continue holding this against him. What does it cost to have this view of him? What view of yourself do you have to have in order to maintain that view of him?
Seriously, when we get truly in touch with what this sort of thing costs us, it's
devastating. And we numb ourselves to it because it's so devastating. There's a thick layer of denial and willful ignorance over top of that pain. But it's there. And you're trading that pain for the pleasure of continuing to be right, and you have been since you were 16. So, yay for being right, I guess...
You're not a bad person for doing that, btw. We all do that. It takes an exceptional person to be willing to look at it honestly and confront what it takes to put it down, so I want you to know, I'm impressed and proud of you for having gotten this far with it.