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True forgiveness, as has been said, has nothing to do with them and what they will or won't do in the future. Forgiveness is possibly the purest act of generosity a human being is capable of.
The root of "forgive" is "fore-give"--to give them back how it was before. It means YOU giving up the right to hold whatever it is against them ever again--not because they deserve it, or you're convinced they're sorry, or they've learned anything, or you believe anything in particular about their future behavior. You'd only do that if you were sick and tired of the cost ON YOU of continuing to hold it against them. It costs you BIG (and I don't mean just Will, but I do mean Will).
We're weird, us human beings. We try to kill others by swallowing the poison ourselves.
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