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Originally Posted by willravel
But if they show no remorse, then there's a chance that you may fall victim to what they have done again. For example: I don't let my dad drive me anywhere anymore, and I always have my wallet and cell on me no matter what. Had he apologized or shown me that he was sorry for doing that to me, I wouldn't have to think twice when he offered to drive. Maybe what I mean is that to me forgiveness is about trust, too. I trust that in the future you'll try to correct your actions. Without that trust being rebuilt, the wound is open.
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You're confusing forgive and forget. Forgive means you internally are no longer wasting emotional energy harboring ill will against someone who has wronged you. It's not worth your time, and it's not healthy.
However, at the same time, if your dad is unrepentant, by all means, forgiveness does not require you make yourself vulnerable to repeat behavoir. Putting yourself in the same situation and expecting different results is called insanity, not forgiveness.