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Snowy is spot on. Be consistent in both your expectations and her consequences.
I have the feeling she didn't have to face the consequences of her decisions very early on-toddler years at least-so that now she doesn't feel there will be repercussions now.
Another factor is her place in the family, the youngest and the only girl. There's a lot of competition, a lot of wanting to be heard-acting up is a way to do it.
You say you 'tried to take her out of her sport', which makes me assume you let her go back. That's not consistent at all. Take her out, keep her out until she realizes that her actions produce reactions. Same with all those other 'trieds'-you didn't follow through, letting her know it doesn't matter what she does, Mom will wimp out and give in. Ask yourself if that's what you want to be seen as-someone who can be manipulated by a child.
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