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Originally Posted by ItWasMe
I have a quick question. Do you want it to be "only sex" with your husband?
I am not going to state what I have or have not done. But I will warn that, for some people, once you separate sex into only a physical act with no emotions, something akin to a backrub, it is hard to reverse that. You can accidentally sever a special connection you already have with someone, and it can be damn near impossible to get that back. And you give up and move on, it can take years before you can connect emotionally with anyone new, sex or no sex.
This is obviously not true with everyone. But something for you to consider.
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very well said and something I will ponder for my own situation - but I do have to agree in this case. There was one time that my husband and I tried anything remotely like this. He kept mentioning that he wanted to try a threesome, never really with a guy or girl although I think he meant a girl. So a few years back on New Years Eve we were drunk with some friends, another couple, and started out by playing strip poker, the other gentleman left to go get more alcohol from his house and while he was gone his girlfriend, my husband, and I started having a threesome. The other gentleman returned and it turned into a foursome. My husband enjoyed this, but as soon as he was "finished" he left the room. A bit later I actually left because I just couldn't be in there without him. He seemed very flustered and bothered by the fact another guy had joined in. He never really wanted to talk about it, but since then he's never mentioned having a threesome again. At all. Looking back I can see that we should have talked about this more beforehand because I hadn't wanted to, but afterwards I would love to again and he doesn't want to. So we have agreed that it wasn't for us as a couple. Now it's just one of my fantasies I pull out when I need something extra.
Be sure, talk with him and be brutally honest if you have to. Ask him to do the same and if he's truly thought it through, you being with another man.
Good Luck!