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Originally Posted by Shaindra
Saboutaging the computer won't solve anything. People play that much WoW (or do anything else to excess) because they aren't happy. If you don't figure out why he isn't happy, he'll just get pissed at losing his coping mechanism and find a new one. The more she nags about it, the more he'll dig in.
Is your mom upset at the time he spends, or the fact that women play the game? If she's feeling insecure, WoW is the least of the things she might find to be upset about.
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I really like this advice, and I like your clarification, for my concern is that people automatically assume that playing World of Warcraft a lot is a bad thing. It's not a great thing, to be sure, but it's just as bad as watching too much television or playing too many console games. You can play World of Warcraft and not do it to excess.
So he gets home about 5-6pm and logs on for 5-6 hours of game time. Most likely he's raiding, and if he's of any value to his guild, he'll feel bad for missing a raid. Consider that over his months of playing he has spent 20-30 hours a week, if not more, associating with his guild, and they have become part of his social sphere. Likely that does include women, but for a lot of guys who raid, their relationship with their guild is a kind of work relationship, because they're there to get a job done (to get a dungeon cleared and kill bosses for phat lewtz).
My boyfriend is an active raider with his guild and the primary raid leader for the guild. He leads three raids--Karazhan (2 nights a week), Gruul's Lair (1 night a week), and is trying to get a consistent run of Zul'Aman going. My point is that he spends a lot of time doing all of this, several nights a week, yet our relationship is still great. Why? Because I talk to him! I let him know when he's raiding too much. I let him know what my expectations are. I tell him what he needs to do to be able to raid and keep me happy. He's not psychic, and neither is stepdad.
If your mother is unhappy with her relationship with your stepdad, she needs to step up and let her needs be known. As one of our female posters says--if Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy. But if she isn't clearly communicating that unhappiness, and how to fix it, your stepdad isn't going to have a clue.