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wugic · 11-28-2007, 08:39 PM

I met a girl a few months ago through the bike(the pedal kind) club at my university. She was just getting into biking and wanted to learn so I started taking her riding. Since then I've taken her biking once or twice a week for the last 2 months or so. She is always really keen to go out biking with me... but I don't know if it's because she just wants to ride her bike or she's also interested in me. I'm pretty sure if she didn't go out riding with me she wouldn't be able to find anyone to ride with because most people aren't very patient with beginners. Initially I wasn't really interested in anything more than a platonic relationship with lots of bike riding and she was really quiet and shy but seemed to enjoy herself. The more I've gotten to know her the more interested/attracted I've become though.

The problem is she is really shy and quiet. Not just around me but around pretty much everyone I've seen her interact with. I like girls like this but I can't really figure out what to do. I'm almost positive that if she was interested in being anything more than just friends she wouldn't do or say anything about so I'd definitely have to make the first move. I also don't think she has much or any relationship experience and she doesn't seem to pick up on any of the subtler hints I've put out there. Normally I'd just go for it and ask her on a obvious "this is a date" date, but I don't want to lose a good biking buddy/potential friend in this case. I'm pretty sure that if I made it clear I was interested in a relationship and she wasn't things would be too awkward to continue hanging out. I definitely want to remain friends either way, but I know if I don;t act somewhat soon I'll be stuck in the friend zone forever.

Does anyone have any suggestions on finding out if she is interested and initiating something without risking our friendship if she isn't into me?

11-28-2007, 08:39 PM	#1 (permalink)
wugic Upright	From friendship to a relationship with a shy girl I met a girl a few months ago through the bike(the pedal kind) club at my university. She was just getting into biking and wanted to learn so I started taking her riding. Since then I've taken her biking once or twice a week for the last 2 months or so. She is always really keen to go out biking with me... but I don't know if it's because she just wants to ride her bike or she's also interested in me. I'm pretty sure if she didn't go out riding with me she wouldn't be able to find anyone to ride with because most people aren't very patient with beginners. Initially I wasn't really interested in anything more than a platonic relationship with lots of bike riding and she was really quiet and shy but seemed to enjoy herself. The more I've gotten to know her the more interested/attracted I've become though. The problem is she is really shy and quiet. Not just around me but around pretty much everyone I've seen her interact with. I like girls like this but I can't really figure out what to do. I'm almost positive that if she was interested in being anything more than just friends she wouldn't do or say anything about so I'd definitely have to make the first move. I also don't think she has much or any relationship experience and she doesn't seem to pick up on any of the subtler hints I've put out there. Normally I'd just go for it and ask her on a obvious "this is a date" date, but I don't want to lose a good biking buddy/potential friend in this case. I'm pretty sure that if I made it clear I was interested in a relationship and she wasn't things would be too awkward to continue hanging out. I definitely want to remain friends either way, but I know if I don;t act somewhat soon I'll be stuck in the friend zone forever. Does anyone have any suggestions on finding out if she is interested and initiating something without risking our friendship if she isn't into me?