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Originally posted by Ruprex
I'm moving to NY one month from now and they are upset that this could be the last time we ever get to see each other. This coming from my "friends" who haven't called me but like twice in the last four years.
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Doesn't sound like it matters much. I mean, if you've heard from them so infrequently, they're not exactly what I'd call "close".
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I still love these guys. They’re my friends but we're totally not in the same place.
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but you love the
memory of your friends. Yes? I mean, if you've not done anything with them in 4 years, what exactly are you "in love" with about them?
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Is it so much to ask that they respect me in my wishes?
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Nope, they're being unreasonable.
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Do I blow them off for good rather then try to fix this so-called broken thing? I hurt their feelings today.
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And what, exactly, did they do to yours? Your friends are so considerate, huh? How much money would their "surprise" cost you, how many problems with people who
were invited would it cause? "Consideration" is not a one-way thing. If they didn't consider the impact of their "surprise", fuck 'em.
"I appreciate the thought, but you didn't think this through at all. Please keep in touch." might be a thought for you to start with, if you speak with them again at all.
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Should I even care at this point...after all, they even toyed with the idea of crashing my wedding until I caught wind of that and put a halt to it. I mean these guys are still acting like they're in high school and using the bros over bitches’ motto-type of shit. Who fucken needs it?
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No one with a clue needs it.
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Tell me I'm right in this folks....
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Easy: you're right. They appear totally clueless about what goes into a wedding, how much pre-planning is involved, how much is involved in putting together the invitation list, etc.. If they refuse to understand that, there's nothing you can do about it.