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Originally Posted by joeyaz
Okay I'm 26 years old. I am constantly feeling pressure to "settle down" Whenever I date someone new my mom is always thinking its marriage material and she wants me to have kids already. All my friends are settled already. Most are unhappy I suspect but they got someone.
I'm kinda looked at as a crazy single guy who won't ever settle down. All my friends girlfriends hate me cause I'm single and I'll get their boyfriends in trouble lol
I don't have a problem with settling down when I find someone and I have had a few close calls but I'm still looking...anyone else in the same boat? I always feel like I need to find some new single friends to go out with. Is it bad to "settle"
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If you are looking for that perfect woman forget it, she doesn't exist. There were times while dating when I wondered if my wife would be 'the one' and early on even a few times when I thought maybe we should break up, and thank darwin I didn't do that.
If you think shes perfect, she wont' be in ten years of living together. Things change.
So it depends. If you are expecting perfection, then your mother has a point. If you just haven't been with that right woman and there are major issues with the ones you have been with that make them unmarriable, then just keep looking.
Now that I am a parent, I understand the age old 'when are you settling down' question. I waited for kids due to my schooling and I wish now I had started earlier. Its something I don't think you can 'get' though until you are there. She wants you to 'settle' down, because she thinks its in your interest.