Hey...
Put yourselves in my shoes for a minute...
Been dating my SO for nearly four years, been living together for nearly a year.
A buddy of mine has recently emigrated to the UK, and tells me he has planned a trip to Japan for 2 weeks.
He tosses a casual invite my way, and for the first time, I think to myself that I have the funds to actually pull this off.
I broach the subject with the SO, who gives me a chilly "you should go" but at the same time lets me know that she's really hurt that I would want to go overseas without her... even if it's just for 2 weeks...
We start talking about the possibility of her coming with, but she tells me that, because the idea wasn't mine to begin with, she won't enjoy herself there, as she feels I'm only going for my buddy (which is partially true, as I haven't seen him in person for a year...).
I'm 24, I've never travelled, and keep worrying that the older I get, the less opportunities I'll have to do this... I have this enormous cloud of guilt hanging over me for getting so excited about this trip at the start, but it's now
just manifested into a situation where I lose if I go by myself (tremendous guilt and the possibility of never being forgiven), going with the SO (I will resent her for being miserable that she doesn't like how the plan originated) or staying home (I'm a bit of a Japanophile
and will regret not going for the rest of my life).
Do you guys think that this is symptomatic of a larger problem in the relationship?
Am I getting a raw deal?
Or am I being a selfish prick?
God, I hate not being able to see which is the right choice...
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