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Miss Mango · 11-07-2007, 12:29 PM

I had a big argument with my mom just last night about this subject. Mind you, we get along famously, but we love to throw our views at each other because we learn from them. However in this subject we were both at opposite ends of the spectrum, and werent budging. Perhaps the two of us had very extremist views, even.

Ill attempt to convey her view, but I doubt I will accurately....
She staunchly believes that back in the day, say the 40s-60s, before the sexual revolution sex had a very special, highly exclusive intimate meaning. Naturally, it was private, because something so special was a topic to be reserved for you and your significant other alone. She believed that despite whatever impulses people may have had, sex was more genuinely intimate and special. It was built into the concept of love; you meet someone, court them, and if you love them enough, you may have sex with them. And that act is part of what defines the significance of the love you share.

I, on the other hand, am about as polar opposite as it gets; I believe sex and love are entirely different things. I also believe that the desire and instinct to peruse sex can make people confused, can twist their belief such that their lust is actually love. This confusion is avoided through better knowing yourself, which is assisted intensely by having experience. Accordingly, I believe that to be more emotionally healthy and mature, people should deal with sex in their lives before they they define their union, to make sure that things will work out in the long term. Meanwhile, love will still happen in time, regardless of the diminished sanctity of sex, and there is less chance to become confused.

She believes that I have been inducted into this belief by nature of my generations over-sexed media. She believes that marketing(such a powerful force..) has crafted my impressions, promoting the pursuit of sex in the place of love. She believes this erodes the importance of peoples love, and their unions.

I believe that she has been inducted into feelings of guilt and repression through her generations teachings. I think that her associations between love and sexs sanctity comes via propaganda, dogmatically ingrained by her times. I think that this view naively disregards peoples base instincts as humans, and doesnt work in our shifting gender politics.

Right.
So.... Where do you stand?
Is the current media oversexed? How special is sex? Does this devalue love? Does todays sexual liberation deteriorate or strengthen a unions strength, cohesion?

11-07-2007, 12:29 PM	#1 (permalink)
Miss Mango Psycho	Does the modern media devalue sex? I had a big argument with my mom just last night about this subject. Mind you, we get along famously, but we love to throw our views at each other because we learn from them. However in this subject we were both at opposite ends of the spectrum, and werent budging. Perhaps the two of us had very extremist views, even. Ill attempt to convey her view, but I doubt I will accurately.... She staunchly believes that back in the day, say the 40s-60s, before the sexual revolution sex had a very special, highly exclusive intimate meaning. Naturally, it was private, because something so special was a topic to be reserved for you and your significant other alone. She believed that despite whatever impulses people may have had, sex was more genuinely intimate and special. It was built into the concept of love; you meet someone, court them, and if you love them enough, you may have sex with them. And that act is part of what defines the significance of the love you share. I, on the other hand, am about as polar opposite as it gets; I believe sex and love are entirely different things. I also believe that the desire and instinct to peruse sex can make people confused, can twist their belief such that their lust is actually love. This confusion is avoided through better knowing yourself, which is assisted intensely by having experience. Accordingly, I believe that to be more emotionally healthy and mature, people should deal with sex in their lives before they they define their union, to make sure that things will work out in the long term. Meanwhile, love will still happen in time, regardless of the diminished sanctity of sex, and there is less chance to become confused. She believes that I have been inducted into this belief by nature of my generations over-sexed media. She believes that marketing(such a powerful force..) has crafted my impressions, promoting the pursuit of sex in the place of love. She believes this erodes the importance of peoples love, and their unions. I believe that she has been inducted into feelings of guilt and repression through her generations teachings. I think that her associations between love and sexs sanctity comes via propaganda, dogmatically ingrained by her times. I think that this view naively disregards peoples base instincts as humans, and doesnt work in our shifting gender politics. Right. So.... Where do you stand? Is the current media oversexed? How special is sex? Does this devalue love? Does todays sexual liberation deteriorate or strengthen a unions strength, cohesion?