Warning! Just my view and I am sure you all know my opinion of these blog things after the Ladder theory. Definitely NOT directed towards any particular TFP member.
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there are plenty of nice guys at home alone right now because they don't know how to play the game.
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The reasons these 'nice' guys are at home all alone is because they're not really nice guys. So often these guys say how 'nice' they are and how they've done this and this and that for girl A and yet she still doesn't see them as a romantic option. If they were truly nice guys they would be doing it to be nice not in the hopes that some day the girl is going to turn around and realise she's subconciously been in love with them for the past 5 years and never noticed.
If you were a really nice guy you would have accepted from the beginning that there's a chance the girl wouldn't want to date you. All you've suceeded in showing her is that you were only interested in befriending her because you were hoping to get into her pants. That's not nice, it's slimy. You can't attach strings to kindness, even if it wasn't real.
Guys like this need to drop all this entitlement BS. No one owes you anything, especially not a date just because you offered fake friendship. She never asked you to talk to her nicely, she never asked you to listen to her, if she had you two would already have been dating.
That is the problem I have with this blog, it's scenarios make it obvious the girl is meant to 'owe' you for being her friend. So you helped fix her computer or dropped her home is she meant to suddenly strip off her clothes are throw herself at you? If you expect that you really see her as nothing more then a hole to be penetrated.
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You have to be happy with yourself above all else - you absolutely positively cannot rely or depend on someone else to bring you happiness. Once you have the self-security, the confidence will follow, and you will be the type of person you need to be, relationship be damned.
You just need to realize that the only person that can truly make you happy...is you.
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This IS true, if you're happy with yourself you become the confident, self assured person that can show a girl he's interested without playing the 'friend game' first. That is going to be far more effective because the girl isn't going to be left thinking you've been trying to emotionally manipulate her for the past however many months.