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Originally Posted by dirtyrascal7
Prince, when approaching her about all this... which I agree you NEED to do... you must focus on how she FEELS. That is what she will respond to and it is the only thing that she will focus on. No matter how sound or reasonable your arguments are, if they make her feel bad or like she's being judged... she'll shut you off and things will go downhill very quickly.
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To continue this thought: there's a "magic sentence" that I learned along the way. You need to be able to complete it before you talk to her.
"When you ____________, I feel _____________, because I need ___________, and therefore I would like __________."
I've found that when I can't complete this sentence, the issue is still confused in my own mind, and therefore I'm not in a position to confront someone else's actions.