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Originally Posted by captobvious
I'd be careful with making statements like this to her:
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Tell her how you feel....tell her how utterly ridiculous she is making herself look....ask her why she's trying SO hard to not to appear married.
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I said similar things to my girl at the time, and it just made her feel like she was being judged. When I got upset because she was spending so much time with her coworkers, she just felt like I was trying to control her. I told her how I felt, but unfortunately, my story ends the same as the others. We broke up. |
I agree with this. Shani's suggestion makes a lot of sense to us on the outside looking in... and that's exactly why it's probably a bad idea. Trying to use logic in this situation is like shooting a BB gun at a polar bear, it will only piss her off and will do nothing to slow her down or stop her.
Prince, when approaching her about all this... which I agree you
NEED to do... you must focus on how she FEELS. That is what she will respond to and it is the only thing that she will focus on. No matter how sound or reasonable your arguments are, if they make her feel bad or like she's being judged... she'll shut you off and things will go downhill very quickly.