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Cripes Prince...sounds like my experience when I was in 3rd year 2nd semester of uni. While I was nose deep in papers and she started a new job the September before. We pretty much relied on each other for social "to do's" until all I was doing was writing papers and studying.
A little background info:
At the time I was 27 and she was 30. We are both introverts but she was more so than I. I was in for my 2nd degree and her and her co-workers as far as I know had minimal exposure to post secondary education. Not that it mattered but their social functions were pretty much drunkfests. They start out fun but they get pretty stupid after 11pm and wasn't as much fun compared to when it started.
She started hanging out w/friends from work and coming home late. Since it was an hour drive one way, when winter snow hit she started crashing at one of her co-workers. No big deal I thought. I trust her and she's starting to do things independently of me...good on her...so I thought.
Things were going so well the last year of our upcoming 6 year relationship that I decided that after my exams, it was time to pop the Q in the month of Feb. Got the ring and after finishing writing 3 exams in 2 days and two more the day after I get the, "We need to talk..."
After asking her if it can wait until after exams (two days later) to talk about this. It was quite a weight on her mind that she kept insisting that we talk that night. Needless to say, we, rather she ended up saying that she loved me but NOT in love w/me.
Me: Ooooo K...can we deal with it after my exams?
What seemed to be a "blossoming" for her turned out to be my worst nightmare. The person she crashed at she had been boning since Christmas. She felt sorry for him as his 3rd wife passed away from cancer the month that she started work there.
In a nutshell...have the talk NOW before your exams start. You are seeing the warning signals...nip it in the bud before it REALLY gets out of hand. I barely passed my last 2 exams going through all that BS and come to think of it, it was quite selfish of her jeopardizing my last two courses with that bombshell.
Best of luck and don't let it F-up your academic standing.
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