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Tricks - The whole thing about control issues rang a big bell with me. I'm going to look into that, and ask my parents. A lot of the things she does, seem aimed at control, not necessarily controlling me all of the time, but giving her the feeling of control. Women who use sex against a man are classic control issue symptoms, and I've seen this from her.
cdwonderful - the thought that I am a masochist has crossed my mind a few times. Insane, maybe, hopelessly optimistic, definitely. Thanks for your input.
Leander - There is or isn't another guy at home, I really can't tell. From what I've heard he's really nice, and rich and stuff, something I'm not. I realize a lot of people would like to slap the ladder theory label on this, but I don't feel it's appropriate. If this girl and I were in a ladder theory situation, I would be her security blanket, and she would dump me as soon as something better came along. The thing is, I got rid of her, and it hurt her a lot, she's told me, and I have the angry notes, emails, phone calls to prove it. I just don't think this one fits the scenario, I mean, in ladder theory the girl doesn't come back after you piss her off.
You guys have made my thoughts on this much more clear, there are some things I need to research. I think she really needs help, and I might too. I need to figure out how to get out of this without making things worse.
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Convictions are more dangerous enemies of truth than lies.
Frederich Nietzsche
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