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The reason that women claim they want personality and really want physicality is a sort of cognitive dissonance. There are 'politically correct' reasons for wanting a guy, and being hot is not one of them. Our society doesn't encourage anyone to openly declare that they only want 'hot' people, but it's still the case. INITIAL attraction is always going to be a physical assessment, as it is largely subconscious (meaning our PC conscious can't affect it), and because there is little else to go on. They don't know your personality, ideals, confidence, etc, so what else do they have to go on?
So yes, being "pretty" is going to allow you to START many more conversations. It's a fact of life, and it's not going to change no matter how hard women try to convince themselves that they want a guy with "personality."
Long-term conversation and dating, however, is largely controlled by the conscious mind. This is where what a woman claims she wants will actually come into play.
So if a woman tells you she wants a guy with "a sense of humor, good personality, goals and a good job who is a great listener" what she means is she wants those AFTER you're dating. What she wants BEFORE you're dating is a mystery to you, and it's probably a mystery to her. It's a combination of subconscious effects, brought about by everything from her heredity to her previous experience with men, including her father.
And before any women read this and think that I'm singling out the female gender, "men" can replace every instance of "woman" in the paragraphs above.
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