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Originally Posted by Shauk
well she's both in the position to be specifically and not specifically why i'm moving. I mean, yes, we're going to be living together because I wouldn't have a place to stay otherwise until I get my eggs lined up to hatch, the Job, school options and so on.
but at the same time I can't say her alone would make me want to move over there as she's been a rather constant source of conflict.
in any case, when I show up, she'll have to deal with me head on instead of this phone tag/myspace/msn nonsense. It's too easy to have "incomplete" snapshots of conversations, theres no body language to be had then.
so yeah i've always wanted to live in that area, and she's enabling that for me with her offer. She's obviously got her own interests at heart by doing so, and I have mine for accepting. It's just a matter of alignment when I show up to see if things are going to work out or not.
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COME ON SHAUK....
Let's be honest. You are moving out there to be with her. The other stuff is secondary. Out of everywhere in the world that you could live (and many places are perfectly affordable, warm, tropical, fun), the place you want to go the most is RENTON, WA??????
Be real with yourself. You're getting back together. Gotta point out that this sounds like co-dependent behavior but like I said, sometimes you have to hit rock bottom to get over the ex.
You will do yourself a HUGE favor though if you can see this for what it is and stop viewing your situation through rose-colored lenses. You've posted all over TFP about your relationship with her so obviously the arrangement is more than just a place to crash til you get your shit together.
1. Are you sleeping in the same bed? Ok, you're together.
2. Is getting back together a potentially batshit idea? YES. This is the girl that in your words is a "constant source of conflict."
3. Are you going to do it anyway? You sure are.
4. Do we buy your front of being emotionally detached from her and therefore immune to the immense heart-wrenching despair she can and will wreak? Nope.
Be honest with yourself.
Shauk, this is the only way I can kick your ass about this because you need it. Sorry if it comes off harsh but you are the smarter and more mature one in this relationship. Don't let her drag you down again. Keep your head.