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Originally Posted by shesus
I don't think you need counseling unless you notice this in other aspects of your life. I'd say you need to practice saying what's on your mind more often. Keeping feelings pent up is asking for an explosion. But therapy couldn't hurt, I just don't think it's the fix all for everything.
As for this relationship, maybe just add it to your list of living and learning. Work on yourself right now...
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Hmm, in my experience, if you have issues dealing with your anger, that will carry over into your other relationships. You'll never be with someone that won't ever tick you off; only the issues will be different.
My "angry ex" is still an angry person and the last time we talked he noted that he's learnt it's not right to yell at (I think he uses the term "correct") his spouse but it is ok to yell at his kids. Errr, yeah. He yelled a lot and broke a door down once. I kind of feel for his kids (incidentally, his mother also yells a lot). See the cycle?
Therapy will work for you if you want it to work for you. In your case, if you've tried everything else, I think Group Therapy would be a perfect fit. The best thing therapy can do for you is to help you learn how to articulate your feelings to yourself. You get to know yourself better and you might be able to catch yourself running behavior patterns as you're doing it. Of course, it all depends on how much you work at it but I think it's a pretty good thing when you can tell your SO, "honey, I'm really mad at you right now but I don't want to be a douchebag and yell so I'm going to chill out. I just wanted to say it makes me really mad when you ___________ "