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Originally Posted by soma
Ok. I do have a problem with being assertive so I usually just bottle my anger up. But how specifically can I work on this. If I want to seek professional help, how can I do this? I'm worried I can't afford it.
One of the bigger reasons why I get mad is when I want to be intimate with her and she turns down my advances. It makes me upset because whenever she asks me to do something for her, I do my best to do it but when I ask for something I really need, she can't deliver. I don't know... When I get horny, it's like I get an itch only she can scratch (I try masturbating a ton whenever i get turned down, but it doesn't do much and I just get more frustrated). I definitely have a larger sexual appetite than she does.
Thoughts?
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If you're in the US, you may be able to find cheap/low-income counseling/therapy - check with your doctor or check the internet.
A personal therapist can get pricey. I paid $75/hr. My friend found a therapist who does a sliding scale for payment and she pays $30 per session.
You might also check out group therapy. It's a good way to learn to be assertive and talk about your feelings in front of other people. I really recommend it. In a group setting, you are forced to feel more accountable for your actions. It was the most productive therapy for me. One-on-one talk therapy tends to make me wallow in my own issues rather than taking responsibility for them.