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I'll bite.
1. Intelligence. Big, big, big. I don't expect her to have read all the books I've read or to be knowledgeable on the subjects that I am, but a thirst for knowledge is huge. I also like people who can teach me new things.
2. Sense of humour. Sometimes I'm a goof. If she's not going to be a goof with me, then she at least needs to be able to laugh at me and not be embarrassed.
3. Good looking. Call it shallow if you like, but the bottom line is, I don't date girls for their personality. I'll be friends with girls for their personality, but the ones I date are the ones I'm physically attracted to.
4. Sense of direction. I know where my life is going. I have a 5 year plan. I will not tie myself down to someone who has no direction and is content to serve fries for twenty years.
5. Independent. I have no intention of being anyone's babysitter and I'm not about to attach myself to someone who can't stand on their own. I have my own shit to deal with, I don't need hers on top of it.
6. Musically inclined. A very large portion of my life revolves around music. I am a musician and I have very strong and diverse interests in the music I listen to. This is so much a part of who I am, I cannot imagine having a relationship with someone who doesn't share my passion. She doesn't have to enjoy music to the same degree and certainly doesn't have to prefer the same genres I do, but there has to be some interest.
7. A good cook. I'm not much of a cook and I know it. Therefore, I'd simply call this a point of compatibility. I will happily clean up the kitchen every single night if I've got someone who can cook for me.
8. A quiet soul. I'm a quiet guy, and I lead a quiet life. I don't mind going out once in a while, but there are going to be nights when I just want to curl up with a good book. Therefore, she has to be able to appreciate a quiet night in.
9. Accepting. I've come through a lot to be the person I am today and I am overall quite happy with who I am. I'm not gonna change for anyone but myself and anyone who tries to change me will be shown the door. I am who I am, take it or leave it.
10. Sexual. I've been with a girl who just lay there and figured she'd done her part because she'd let me in her pants. Nuh-uh; sex isn't something you let me do, it's something we do together. If I'm going to be the only participant, I might as well go jerk off. And if that's the case, I don't really need you to begin with.
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I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept
I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept
I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head
I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said
- Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame
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