I'll side with Shanni about the depression meds possibly causing lower sex drive. But I'll go even farther. Depression can also cause a lower sex drive, irritability, fatigue, etc. And the meds can sometimes take a couple of weeks or a couple of months to start working well. You're lucky the wedding is three years away, and not three weeks. You can run, or stay and see what difference the meds make in a couple of months. And pay attention to see if this becomes a pattern. Because for some people (not all), depression has a nasty habit of recurring. For some, it is like a black cloud/monster following you through life, and sometimes it overtakes you. You can spend your life going on/off meds, watching your body/moods to see if you are 'slipping.' And this can be very hard for your loved ones to watch and to deal with. If you decide to stay, I would encourage you to pay attention. I would not blame anyone for not wanting to make a lifetime commitment dealing with it.
On the other hand, it could be she is irritable/tired/has low sex drive because she is having second thoughts. Or this could be the 'real her' showing through. If this is her 'normal' sex drive, getting married isn't going to make it better.
Anyway, I picked out your main points for you to see. Pretend it's a friend asking you for advice and they say:
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Originally Posted by thelifeandtimes
I am young and engaged.
... the doubts have already began to set in.
We are perfectly compatible.
Firstly, we have been fighting constantly.
Secondly, our sexual life has pretty much disappeared.
Finally, I am not sure if I really want kids...she wants to have a family by the time we are 30 with three kids.
I just feel that I am missing out on so much of my life lately. our direction in life later on?
Advice would be awesome.
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ok. bye.