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Push-Pull · 09-26-2007, 03:43 PM

You have an opportunity. If you're looking for "permission" to run away, then consider it given.

I have to agree with everyone else, but I realize that you are probably not at complete ease with packing up and leaving so quickly without at least trying something. I would offer this.....Tell her exactly how you feel and that you are considering separating from her. See how she reacts.

If she reacts poorly, then you know that she isn't willing to be responsive to your desires for a "good" relationship. Time to lace up your running shoes.

If she reacts well, then stick around and see what happens. BUT, it is up to you to define the goals and see to it that they are met.

If your goals aren't met, well, then time to lace up your running shoes.

Just remember, you're young, and you have a lot of stuff in front of you. You don't have to deal with this bullshit. Whether you "fix it" or run away, you don't have to deal with it. Stand firm, and don't be so quick to settle or compromise, you'll only end up regretting it later when you find that it doesn't have to be that way.

Good luck.

09-26-2007, 03:43 PM	#8 (permalink)
Push-Pull I'll ask when I'm ready.... Location: Firmly in the middle....	You have an opportunity. If you're looking for "permission" to run away, then consider it given. I have to agree with everyone else, but I realize that you are probably not at complete ease with packing up and leaving so quickly without at least trying something. I would offer this.....Tell her exactly how you feel and that you are considering separating from her. See how she reacts. If she reacts poorly, then you know that she isn't willing to be responsive to your desires for a "good" relationship. Time to lace up your running shoes. If she reacts well, then stick around and see what happens. BUT, it is up to you to define the goals and see to it that they are met. If your goals aren't met, well, then time to lace up your running shoes. Just remember, you're young, and you have a lot of stuff in front of you. You don't have to deal with this bullshit. Whether you "fix it" or run away, you don't have to deal with it. Stand firm, and don't be so quick to settle or compromise, you'll only end up regretting it later when you find that it doesn't have to be that way. Good luck. __________________ "No laws, no matter how rigidly enforced, can protect a person from their own stupidity." -Me- "Some people are like Slinkies..... They are not really good for anything, but they still bring a smile to your face when you push them down a flight of stairs." -Unknown- DAMMIT! -Jack Bauer- Last edited by Push-Pull; 09-26-2007 at 03:52 PM..