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Wow, that's quite a blow.
Plus a three year engagement, that's a long ass time. Not to mention since y'all are near my age or my age (19) A lot happens when we're this young. Also let me be the first to say, a lot of couples get engaged young and don't follow through, you won't be the first to do so either. Also I believe it would give you a life experience you'll remember and use toward future relationships, plus I'm sure many of your family and friends would applaud you for making an adult decision.
If you feel this way you should pull out. If it feels wrong don't do it because everyone else wants you to. You should come first. This girl obviously has a calendar plan for her life and you're filling in perfectly. GET AWAY! I know it's awfully hard to break up with someone you care about signifigantley, but if she's ignoring the issues it's only going to end up bad down the road. Don't do that to yourself, you'll look back next year and say to yourself, what the fuck was I thinking about wanting to marry this person! Trust me, I've been there and I learned. Slow things down...
You have plenty of time. Why rush?
I know that's a total rant saying you should break up, but from what it sounds like, seems like you want other people to justify your decision to break up too.
Also, this girls on depression medicine?! I think weddings and depression meds don't mix. Somethings wrong on many levels, which you already know. So theres my advice, break up with her and find someone better with a better sex drive! James and I are going onto our 1 yr plus whatever month and our libidos are still in overdrive! Y'alls should be too!
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