I'm a slow learner
and no, I shoot myself in the foot again and again even if people tell me not to. I have to learn on my own. I can discuss as much as I want but I value my own unique perspectives on things since I can't possibly explain every little nuance that could flavor a general situation to be a little different than what people are envisioning.
its interesting to find out who's right or wrong in the end. kind of a tally against myself to see if I'm good at making good situations out of bad in any case.