I just ran across this in the "Sex after 10 years" thread. I thought that it would be appropriate here. I'm going to show the wife this site and see if we can't start talking about the true issues.
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Originally Posted by Racnad
...she feels that my expectation of a 39 year old spouse who still looks forward to being in bed with her husband and enjoys having sex in a variety of positions and places is not realistic.
I don't feel that your expectations are unrealistic.
I find myself in similar curcumstance, and I don't not have a solution. 18 years married myself, sex started declining shortly into it. I have found however that we are not alone. I may have mentioned this in another thread too long ago, but if your interested in it you might want to visit....
http://www.divorcebusting.com/sex_quiz.htm
Re: Averages and polls here's a quote from the book...
"It's not about numbers. Since, unlike vitamins, there are no recommended daily requirements to insure a healthy sex life, a sex-starved marriage is more about the fallout that occurs when one spouse is deeply unhappy with his/her sexual relationship and this unhappiness is ignored, minimized, or dismissed."
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