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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye
I think my point is being missed. Ustwo said that a marriage without sex is just a friendship and whats the point, why not pull the plug (or thats how I read it anyway)....MY point was that lots of people are married that cant have sex...yeah its a little off base of the OP and not wanting to, but I wanted to address that not all marriages are a case of "i dont feel like it" they are cases of CANT and those marriages still continue.
Or are we in a totally different ball game when we are talking unable vs unwilling?
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Yes I did miss your point there. I think though that what you described was an unusual circumstance and obviously my point couldn't cover every unusual circumstance. Closer to home Mrs. Ustwo just had a baby (thats two since I joined TFP for those of you keeping track) which meant very little sex for the last 6 or so months and no sex for the last 2. On top of that Mrs. Ustwo got in very good shape prior to the baby so now that she has 40 lbs of baby fat to lose shes feeling pretty ugly so her drive is lower as she doesn't feel 'sexy', added breast feeding REALLY screws with your hormones as it tells your body to not want to have sex until the child is weened. Thats a legitimate 'can't' and I don't have any issues with it. I also know this is temporary so its more something I can tease her with.
There needs to be a distinction between the still in love, still desire each other but just 'can't' have sex relationship vrs the apathetic, don't care, leave me alone, going through the motions type that seems so common.