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and what if its a decision that cant be helped? Suppose Dave lost his dick in some freak flogging accident (yes I was making a joke....feel free to insert whatever horrible accident that could happen and leave him unable to perform) should I divorce him because there is no sex and we'd be at a friendship stage?
I think not
I have been known to engage in activities even when I didnt feel like it to make HIM feel good, but the difference is he doesnt expect me to do that. If I say "no" he knows its not going to happen. BUT 7 times out of 10 I usually offer a bj if I myself am not in the "mood" to be taken to heights of glorious passion (isnt it sad how there ARE actually times we dont want that lol). The conversation will usually go something like
Dave "I wanna take you in the bedroom and fuck you really hard"
Shannon "Its been a really rough day, Im too tired to participate and I'd feel guilty just laying there....I would really love to give you a blow job though"
lol this is when we get the closest to an "argument" that we ever have. He will decide that its more important for him to mess with me and give me an orgasm so I can releax than for him to have one. We waste more time laying in bed deciding who is going to get who off if we dont feel like intercourse.
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And how many times would you be happy with your relationship if he all of a sudden has no interest in sex? How long would you be happy when after two weeks of subtle hints that you're feeling sexual he says, "ugh, fine" and simply lays there staring at the celing? How many headaches would you put up with?
I believe you're in such a wonderful relationship you're ignoring or not believing the rediculous aspects many marriages go through. My brother went a full year without having sex with his wife (married only 3). She just lost interest for whatever reason. I agree fully that things in relationships change, and sex is usually an indicator of the relationship, but it's also a major aspect of the relationship.
If I sell you a car that runs great, is always up and running and has never given any trouble getting started.... and all of a sudden after you purchase refuses to run there's only so long that you can work on the car and/or ignore the problem before you're going to give up on it and find a new one.
"But Seaver women are not bought like cars!"
Yeah I know, but the analogy is correct. I agree that ideally all, and in reality probably half, of all cases it's stress, the daily life, and the little things they stopped doing has killed the romance in the relationship. However I know from first hand experience sometimes people just stop wanting it. And it's not fair to the other person in the relationship.