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Slims · 09-17-2007, 10:25 AM

Ok, here's my take on it:

You need to support her if this is what she really wants to do.

The navy is a safe job. She is probably more likely to die in a civilian car accident than at war in the navy.

The risk for you is that she might find someone else...two years is a long time, and it is potentially just the prelude to a long career.

However, if you have a strong relationship, and you are both serious about each other then chances are good you will remain together and the navy and the time apart will reinforce and strengthen your relationship. If not, well, better to find out sooner than later.

Why is she hesitant to discuss her decision? Are you against the military? Does she perhaps feel that you will not support her or will think less of her? I am willing to bet that if you relax a little, support her decision (it is still HER decision, you are not even engaged yet) and try not to be short sighted about it, she will be happy to tell you why.

although, you did say that YOU picked the navy for her, and she went with that decision. Seems like she does care about you, because she allowed you to choose the world she is going to live in for the next two years. Why did you choose the Navy?

You really seem disturbed about the possibility of her getting injured or killed. Don't be. I am not being sexist here, but as a part of the military I can tell you for a fact that women are not treated the same as men and are not afforded the opportunity to be in the middle of a fight unless it happens accidentally. Furthermore, she is going to be in the Navy. How many aircraft carriers have been sunk recently? Any navy boats at all? I don't think you have any reason to worry about the well being of your girlfriend.

Also, of those two years, she is probably going to spend at least six months training before she goes anywhere. I don't know how the navy handles deployments (boat rides?) but she probably won't be gone the entire time.

09-17-2007, 10:25 AM	#14 (permalink)
Slims Eccentric insomniac Location: North Carolina	Ok, here's my take on it: You need to support her if this is what she really wants to do. The navy is a safe job. She is probably more likely to die in a civilian car accident than at war in the navy. The risk for you is that she might find someone else...two years is a long time, and it is potentially just the prelude to a long career. However, if you have a strong relationship, and you are both serious about each other then chances are good you will remain together and the navy and the time apart will reinforce and strengthen your relationship. If not, well, better to find out sooner than later. Why is she hesitant to discuss her decision? Are you against the military? Does she perhaps feel that you will not support her or will think less of her? I am willing to bet that if you relax a little, support her decision (it is still HER decision, you are not even engaged yet) and try not to be short sighted about it, she will be happy to tell you why. although, you did say that YOU picked the navy for her, and she went with that decision. Seems like she does care about you, because she allowed you to choose the world she is going to live in for the next two years. Why did you choose the Navy? You really seem disturbed about the possibility of her getting injured or killed. Don't be. I am not being sexist here, but as a part of the military I can tell you for a fact that women are not treated the same as men and are not afforded the opportunity to be in the middle of a fight unless it happens accidentally. Furthermore, she is going to be in the Navy. How many aircraft carriers have been sunk recently? Any navy boats at all? I don't think you have any reason to worry about the well being of your girlfriend. Also, of those two years, she is probably going to spend at least six months training before she goes anywhere. I don't know how the navy handles deployments (boat rides?) but she probably won't be gone the entire time. __________________ "Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery." - Winston Churchill "All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act out their dream with open eyes, to make it possible." Seven Pillars of Wisdom, T.E. Lawrence