Undercover_Man

Hello. My girlfriend just told me that she has to go into the military. She said that she has personal reasons and she couldn't talk with me about it before because she knew that I wouldn't want her to do it.

This is a unique situations though. We are in a long distance relationship. This isn't like any other. We talk on the phone about 7-9 hours each day. When we wake up, during the day between her school and my work, and before we go to sleep.

We know we love each other and we know absolutely certain that we want to get married. There is no question about it. We were made for each other. It's something that we can't explain. It's just strong chemistry.

The plan was that we finish with our school (middle of next year) and we get engaged about a year after and get married the following year.

She told me tonight that she had signed papers that says she will enter into the military when she becomes 18.

We've been together almost a year now. We have been through so much already. I don't know how to think anymore right now. I just wish I could hibernate and sleep through the whole thing until she comes back to me.

I do have some questions though. I'm worried that she won't come back. I'm worried that something will happen and she won't come back. I love her so much. she was able to pick from Army, Marines, or Navy. She let me choose and I picked Navy.

She's going to come back to me, right? What are the statistics of people coming back from a two year thing? Will she be sent out to Iraq? What kind of stuff would they have her do? They won't have her out fighting, will they? She'll only be gone for two years max? How can we stay in contact? What should I expect? I'm scared.

Please explain how I can cope with this different kind of separation. I am so so worried right now. If she doesn't come back then I will go crazy. I can't live without her. She is my heart and soul and my one reason for living. I love her. I don't know what to do. I'm going out of my mind just thinking of it. Please help.

~ Undercover_Man

UPDATE:

Some are wondering why she did this without talking to me first. And why she wants to do this in the first place. Her brothers were in the military and she has always wanted to join. She's doing this because she wants to, because her brothers did it, and because everyone says it would be good for her. She isn't your normal girlie girl. She's more of a tom boy and plays many sports that guys do. She didn't want to tell me until after because she didn't want me to talk her out of it.

We both know that we love each other very deeply and that we are fully committed to this relationship. I've always advised my friend about not doing these types because they don't work all too often, but I've also always told myself that I could make it work. We have been together almost a year (11 months) and we plan on getting married. The question of us supporting each other financially isn't a big problem. I'm from an upper-middle class family and she has inherited some money from some relatives who passed away that she is saving up. I can hold a solid job. I've worked at Disney for a year and my current place for over. We wouldn't have entered into this relationship unless we both knew for sure that we could be a couple in this type of relationship.

Any other questions I will answer. Thanks for the help thus far. I'm not handling this very well at all. I miss her so much already and she isn't even gone yet.