Originally Posted by little_tippler

I'd have to say that though something like this can be psychological to some extent (often also because you get into a vicious cycle of "when I have sex I have pain" so next time you have sex your brain tells you "sex equals pain" type of response), I think you could have one of a few different conditions relating to pain during sex, that you should discuss with a really good and sensitive gyno.

Vulvodynia - Vulvodynia is a general term which means, simply and literally,
"pain in the vulva." It is not the name of a disease, but a symptom, just
like "headache." Vulvar vestibulitis is a syndrome in which there is pain
at specific points in the vulvar vestibule (the portion surrounding the
entrance to the vagina). The term vulvodynia is usually used to describe burning or stabbing pain that is felt more diffusely throughout the vulva. Many women
have both vulvodynia and vulvar vestibulitis.

Vaginismus - Vaginismus is vaginal tightness causing discomfort, burning, pain, penetration problems, or complete inability to have intercourse.
Secondary vaginismus usually refers to the experience of vaginismus a little later in life, after a period of pain-free intercourse, and typically following temporary pelvic problems.

I hope this helps you in talking to your gyno, it's much better to go with some idea of what it might be. Many gynos have no clue on how to treat some of these conditions.