lala2065

I'm 20 and have had sex with two boyfriends. the first sex was great, never hurt. the second i have been consistently having sex with for 2 years and it hurts every single time. does anyone have any advice? i've asked my gyno and she just blew it off and said more foreplay but there is plenty of that. it's like after 5 mins into it i get a burning sensation and so now we just don't do it ever because it's so painful.


any comments would be much appreciated.

Lady Sage

My opinion would be to have yourself checked for a yeast infection and any diseases. A new doctor is also another option.

It could also be that you are drying out part way through, have you tried using lube?

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Grasshopper Green

If your gyno is blowing off your health concerns, it's time you fired her and found one that cares. Burning is not normal, and while it could be something as simple as drying out as Lady Sage suggested, it could be a persistent infection or something. Find another doctor, pronto.

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lala2065

thanks for the help! i should have mentioned that i have had a couple full work ups and are yeast-infection free, STD free, disease free etc. and i have gotten a second opinion that also proved useless.


condoms and lube also dont help.


rahh.

Lady Sage

In that case I am forced to ask a very personal question. Is this boyfriend considerably more endowed than the last?

It could also be that you are allergic to the condoms and/or the lube... perhaps try another kind?

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MissGT

i had a similar problem- however it was not a burning sensation. i discussed it with my best friend- who was also having similar problems and of course my wonderful doc. nothing medically wrong with me-nor my best friend. it was all mental. my question would be how happy are you in the relationship? is he the most perfect boyfriend ever or are there underlying issues that are not trully resolved deep down with you.

since ending that relationship with the pain in the sex department, i have had a few new experiences/new partners- my sex drive has increased 10 fold and there has been no pain to speak of.

Jenna

I'd HIGHLY suggest investing in some lubrication! Sometimes, your natural lubrication just isn't enough. Otherwise, if it's a burning sensation, afterwards, I'd suggest being tested for STD's.

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little_tippler

I'd have to say that though something like this can be psychological to some extent (often also because you get into a vicious cycle of "when I have sex I have pain" so next time you have sex your brain tells you "sex equals pain" type of response), I think you could have one of a few different conditions relating to pain during sex, that you should discuss with a really good and sensitive gyno.

Vulvodynia - Vulvodynia is a general term which means, simply and literally,
"pain in the vulva." It is not the name of a disease, but a symptom, just
like "headache." Vulvar vestibulitis is a syndrome in which there is pain
at specific points in the vulvar vestibule (the portion surrounding the
entrance to the vagina). The term vulvodynia is usually used to describe burning or stabbing pain that is felt more diffusely throughout the vulva. Many women
have both vulvodynia and vulvar vestibulitis.

Vaginismus - Vaginismus is vaginal tightness causing discomfort, burning, pain, penetration problems, or complete inability to have intercourse.
Secondary vaginismus usually refers to the experience of vaginismus a little later in life, after a period of pain-free intercourse, and typically following temporary pelvic problems.

I hope this helps you in talking to your gyno, it's much better to go with some idea of what it might be. Many gynos have no clue on how to treat some of these conditions.

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Starkizzer

I know this may sound weird, but perhaps you are allergic to him. I have heard of cases of women being allergic to semen and even their mates sweat. I know when my guy is all sweaty it makes me break out on my skin that is a little more sensitive.
Also are you allergic to the kind of soap or other products he uses?
This is a crappy situation but I wish you luck and hope you can get back to having fun soon.

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cadre

Is it just me or does it seem like gynos use vulvodynia as a default if they can't explain something? My doctor told me I had that and my symptoms were no where close to what they would have been had I had it.

Lala, if your gyno won't listen to you or take you seriously you should find a new one.

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