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As i have come to recently understand in my travels, people need to rethink the way they approach relationships. The last relationship I was in I made a huge mistake that a lot of people make. At the beginning when the love was just growing between us, I experienced a handful of pure unadulterated blissful moments. Whether it was during sex or just lying next to each other in a field not doing anything, the moment was pure and pristine and I wanted nothing else in the world then to just exist at that very moment.
As time progressed and things began to change, I was almost fanatically focused on getting back to those pristine moments, it consumed me. It drove me so much that I pretty much sabotaged the relationship because when things did not end up how I desired I acted out in anger and dissatisfaction.
The big issue here is that people equate their partners with their own peace and salvation. They become addicted to the moments you share that free you from your life, the times when no matter how bad your life is you just dont care. But these times are fleeting and never last, just like a drug those moments anesthetize your mind for a little bit and then promptly wear off.
As I've come to understand you have to do a lot of work in your own head before you even consider a relationship. You need to be at peace within yourself no matter what your situation is, so that when things dont go your way, you wont find yourself in mental hell because you aren't getting your fix. It is important to make the distinction between peace and happiness. You may not necessarily be happy with the fact that your partner wont do something that you desire, but you don't need that thing to be at peace.
If you can achieve this, your relationship will be infinitely healthier and regardless of how things turn out you wont find yourself going through a painful recoil to what has come to pass.
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Le Berger, Le Mouton, Ce qui vous mangerait? Je ne sais pas. -let it all drop cause fuck it I guess we lost-
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Originally Posted by tecoyah
...or I could just be drunk...cause I am.
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<Danao>I am french so excuse my langage..
<Krost> ^^
<Krost> I'm American so excuse my president.
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