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Referencing the past, as a general concept is a very bad thing unless you get specific:
"You said this morning that you'd do the dishes and now I have no room to cook dinner." Is acceptable....
"You never do the dishes" is not.
So I always try to have a future based approach when dealing with these sort of "living together" issues.
Another technique I use when considering chores around the house is the "How good would I feel if I came home to find this done?" I actually try and imagine what it would be like to walk into a freshly mopped apartment, and, based on that feeling I then do it (as in "it would be so nice if Wife did this for me").
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