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xrayvisor · 09-01-2007, 09:38 AM

It has been recently suggested to me that I may suffer from this as well. Initially, I was shocked, but at the same time, there was another part of me that understood that there were elements of truth to this. Then I found myself looking for ways to dismiss the idea and convince myself and others that this could not be the case. I'm sure there are varying degrees of IC that run through just about everyone, but to Jesus Pimp only you know how deep these feelings actually run. If you feel that it is important enough to mention and seek advice on, do not dismiss your own feelings and think that a few kind words to yourself will be sufficient - seek out someone who can really help, a professional who can help you explore and demystify the underlying causes of your feelings - most people do not know what kind of guidance to provide here. But left unchecked, this kind of problem can actually get worse over time and lead to greater problems (as it has with me). I'm 37 years old, and totally identify with Skysooner - I went through almost identical life-events. I too went through a layoff, and conducted myself in a similar way, that basically led to me distancing and alienating myself from others - a tactic I've employed all my life - I've quietly struggled with these feelings in junior high and high school, some in college, and into the workplace. And now, again, I am at a point in my life where things could seemingly fall apart for me altogether for not dealing with these issues sooner - my marriage and job are threatened, along with my peace. The mind is incredibly complex and it is dangerous to underestimate the implications for ignoring feelings of low self-worth, etc. - literally, it is your own personal success or failure in the world that is at stake. For me, this kind of problem will require deeper self examination and the help of a professional. As with any problem-solving, before you can go about fixing anything, you have to first understand what the problem is. You've already recognized that a problem may exist - the next step is in learning more about it, how severe it is, and what the contributing factors are - only after making some observations and drawing some conclusions can you come up with short-term and long-term solutions that will hold. The positive self-talk may help you feel better in the immediate, but not sure if it will offer much long-term, because the root may run deeper. Good luck JP I hope you find some resolution and answers - self-work can be very rewarding and enlightening.

09-01-2007, 09:38 AM	#9 (permalink)
xrayvisor Upright	not alone It has been recently suggested to me that I may suffer from this as well. Initially, I was shocked, but at the same time, there was another part of me that understood that there were elements of truth to this. Then I found myself looking for ways to dismiss the idea and convince myself and others that this could not be the case. I'm sure there are varying degrees of IC that run through just about everyone, but to Jesus Pimp only you know how deep these feelings actually run. If you feel that it is important enough to mention and seek advice on, do not dismiss your own feelings and think that a few kind words to yourself will be sufficient - seek out someone who can really help, a professional who can help you explore and demystify the underlying causes of your feelings - most people do not know what kind of guidance to provide here. But left unchecked, this kind of problem can actually get worse over time and lead to greater problems (as it has with me). I'm 37 years old, and totally identify with Skysooner - I went through almost identical life-events. I too went through a layoff, and conducted myself in a similar way, that basically led to me distancing and alienating myself from others - a tactic I've employed all my life - I've quietly struggled with these feelings in junior high and high school, some in college, and into the workplace. And now, again, I am at a point in my life where things could seemingly fall apart for me altogether for not dealing with these issues sooner - my marriage and job are threatened, along with my peace. The mind is incredibly complex and it is dangerous to underestimate the implications for ignoring feelings of low self-worth, etc. - literally, it is your own personal success or failure in the world that is at stake. For me, this kind of problem will require deeper self examination and the help of a professional. As with any problem-solving, before you can go about fixing anything, you have to first understand what the problem is. You've already recognized that a problem may exist - the next step is in learning more about it, how severe it is, and what the contributing factors are - only after making some observations and drawing some conclusions can you come up with short-term and long-term solutions that will hold. The positive self-talk may help you feel better in the immediate, but not sure if it will offer much long-term, because the root may run deeper. Good luck JP I hope you find some resolution and answers - self-work can be very rewarding and enlightening.