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Midnight · 08-30-2007, 05:38 AM

mmm... I grew up in a house full of packrats and clutter hoarders.

my mother would go into a full out PANIC if anyone said something about stopping by and would run thru the house frantically cleaning and demand we all be doing the same. my mother would often end up just getting IN to the shower to get ready as the gusts arrived, leaving the rest of the family to entertain them and make her apologies.

I found myself in a weird place in my head in my first home. I was an absolute FREAK about cleanliness and order. vast bare expanses of wall, spotless wood floors, and most of the house done in WHITE and I couldnt stand having anyone over because they would undoubtedly create some sort of a mess, like not hang the bathroom towels straight, or not pushing the chairs in at the right angle so they were aligned with the others "correctly"

I was the poster girl for both OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) and Anal Retentive

It took being picked up at my parents home for something and actually having someone from work walk in and just stand there slack jawed and bug eyed at my parents chaos (after having been to my place) for me to really get it, and that I had a SERIOUS problem.

i know - what the heck do you want to hear from someone like me for right?
well. first of all - relax. your friends are there to see YOU and not your house.
they have been to other peoples houses. other people have jobs and kids and things to look after and are busy too. you are not the only one in the world that might not be some anal retentive freak about order in the house. Its not going to matter to a friend, and truth be told - about 98% of the people i know would rather visit your house than MY first house. With you, they can get comfy, have a snack, have a great visit with you, and not piss you off by making a mess, or become paranoid the moment they set foot in the house because they are afraid to touch anything because the place is so spotless they are afraid of making any kind of mess, or god forbid - spilling something.

*hug*

invite your friend over, laugh, and have a great time. it'll be fine.

08-30-2007, 05:38 AM	#17 (permalink)
Midnight Banned Location: Chicago's western burbs	mmm... I grew up in a house full of packrats and clutter hoarders. my mother would go into a full out PANIC if anyone said something about stopping by and would run thru the house frantically cleaning and demand we all be doing the same. my mother would often end up just getting IN to the shower to get ready as the gusts arrived, leaving the rest of the family to entertain them and make her apologies. I found myself in a weird place in my head in my first home. I was an absolute FREAK about cleanliness and order. vast bare expanses of wall, spotless wood floors, and most of the house done in WHITE and I couldnt stand having anyone over because they would undoubtedly create some sort of a mess, like not hang the bathroom towels straight, or not pushing the chairs in at the right angle so they were aligned with the others "correctly" I was the poster girl for both OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) and Anal Retentive It took being picked up at my parents home for something and actually having someone from work walk in and just stand there slack jawed and bug eyed at my parents chaos (after having been to my place) for me to really get it, and that I had a SERIOUS problem. i know - what the heck do you want to hear from someone like me for right? well. first of all - relax. your friends are there to see YOU and not your house. they have been to other peoples houses. other people have jobs and kids and things to look after and are busy too. you are not the only one in the world that might not be some anal retentive freak about order in the house. Its not going to matter to a friend, and truth be told - about 98% of the people i know would rather visit your house than MY first house. With you, they can get comfy, have a snack, have a great visit with you, and not piss you off by making a mess, or become paranoid the moment they set foot in the house because they are afraid to touch anything because the place is so spotless they are afraid of making any kind of mess, or god forbid - spilling something. hug invite your friend over, laugh, and have a great time. it'll be fine.