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Originally Posted by Push-Pull
I've never really been close to your situation, but I think I can offer this. When you are ready, go out and have FUN. Include your daughter and let it grow naturally. The reason I bring this up is that I watched my grandmother spend the last 25 years of her life a miserable wretch of a person after my grandfather died. That woman was NEVER happy, and went out of her way to heap misery upon her existence. That is hardly what (I believe) any decease spouse would want for their still-living mate.
Also, when you do start the dating again, please be careful to keep the blinders off. Youcontrol more than most people give themselves credit for, and if a person just doesn't "fit", then don't waste your (and your daughter's) time. It may help to write down a set of "rules" as far as how you want a relationship to be, just to help you keep your focus on what you want.
Sorry for your loss, and may you and your daughter find happiness.
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What he said... in half the words that I used, lol.
I think we're all trying to say the same thing.. PLEASE enjoy life, but don't rush into it before you really feel healed enough to do so. I would think that 6 months is really not enough time, but that is entirely your own judgment to make. I know that for my mother, 8-12 months was not long enough, but she wanted a father for me so badly. Hard to say what I would do in those circumstances, really.