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randygurl · 08-13-2007, 10:45 AM

I think a few of you hit it right on the head - he does need to grow some balls and stick up for his own interests more.

We ended up having a long talk about things and while I didn't come right out and tell him that I was going to step back from the relationship, I did raise my doubts and we discussed them. Because I know these friends of his (their not just faceless names to me) I can understand where he is coming from. There are a lot of aspects that come into play as to why they disapprove of our relationship (none of which are because they have any grievance towards me) - some of which involve religion, jealousy, etc. And because I have a well rounded view of where they're coming from, I'm willing to put up with this situation for now.

The way it stand now is that Matt and I are going to keep our relationship completely secret from the three of them until it gets to the point where Matt can go and say to them that we're madly in love and then they'll either have to accept it, or if they force him to choose - than our relationship will be at the point where he'll choose me over their friendships (of course we both hope that never happens - I really don't want them to force him to choose). But he wants to know that what we have will be worth it before he puts his friendships in jeporady like that. He's been hurt before in the past and he doesn't want to get ahead of himself until he knows exactly how he feels and how I feel. But during our discussion last night, everything was spoken about in the sense of its just a matter of when, not if. We both know we're falling for each other and we both know we're going to get to that point, and we'll deal with the repercussions when that does happen. He did say last night that with every day that he spends with me, he's becoming more and more convinced that its worth it (and i feel the same).

So ya - that's the latest development and I have a lot less doubts about everything and I feel happier (I know its still not an ideal situation, but we're going to make the best of it).....

Thanks for all of the input!

08-13-2007, 10:45 AM	#12 (permalink)
randygurl Tilted Location: Vancouver	I think a few of you hit it right on the head - he does need to grow some balls and stick up for his own interests more. We ended up having a long talk about things and while I didn't come right out and tell him that I was going to step back from the relationship, I did raise my doubts and we discussed them. Because I know these friends of his (their not just faceless names to me) I can understand where he is coming from. There are a lot of aspects that come into play as to why they disapprove of our relationship (none of which are because they have any grievance towards me) - some of which involve religion, jealousy, etc. And because I have a well rounded view of where they're coming from, I'm willing to put up with this situation for now. The way it stand now is that Matt and I are going to keep our relationship completely secret from the three of them until it gets to the point where Matt can go and say to them that we're madly in love and then they'll either have to accept it, or if they force him to choose - than our relationship will be at the point where he'll choose me over their friendships (of course we both hope that never happens - I really don't want them to force him to choose). But he wants to know that what we have will be worth it before he puts his friendships in jeporady like that. He's been hurt before in the past and he doesn't want to get ahead of himself until he knows exactly how he feels and how I feel. But during our discussion last night, everything was spoken about in the sense of its just a matter of when, not if. We both know we're falling for each other and we both know we're going to get to that point, and we'll deal with the repercussions when that does happen. He did say last night that with every day that he spends with me, he's becoming more and more convinced that its worth it (and i feel the same). So ya - that's the latest development and I have a lot less doubts about everything and I feel happier (I know its still not an ideal situation, but we're going to make the best of it)..... Thanks for all of the input!