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I had to make the decision between my mother and my now wife.
Like another post said - you CHOOSE your significant other.
My Dad was the one who gave me the wisest advice I've heard to date:
Before you know you're truly sure - imagine that you're going to be waking up next to her every day for the rest of your life. Now since she's the first thing you see when you wake up, how does it make you feel? If it's good, then every day you wake up, you'll have a good day. If it's not good, then every day you wake up, you'll have a bad day. It's your choice wether or not to have good days or bad days.
Although we have our own share of trials and troubles, I think I've made the right decision. It's one of the few grudges that I still carry, but I still do resent my mother for trying to "help" me in the wrong way. How do I know she wanted to help me? - Because I was a mistake myself. Although my parents do love me, I know they also wanted to make sure I didn't make the same "accident".
To be honest, I chose the passive aggressive method of leaving my parents behind until they finally accepted the fact that I knew what I was doing. Now happily married and have been together since high school, we actually hang out with her parents more than my own, simply because they were more accepting of our relationship right from the start. Although they disapproved of us getting together so young (we started dating in grade 10) they preferred that we were open about it, and didn't have to hide.
In the end, the only person responsible for your own happiness is you. Make the choice you know you need to make, at the time you know you need to make it.
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-=[ Merlocke ]=-
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