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Siege, it's not that either way he's going to be hurt. But there's few ways you can say no that won't damage his ego, even if just slightly.
Hyacinthe, this is definitely a tricky one. He sounds like right now he's a pretty sensitive soul, and under the circumstance it probably took him a lot to just come out and ask you out.
You know all to well there is no point fucking this guy around to protect his feelings, because it will only end badly.
Unfortunately though, there is no easy way to say 'Let's just be friends' without it sounding cliche, even when you mean it. But you will have let him down gently gently.
Eh, if it were me, I'd rather you just say it upfront up as soon as you can, state exactly what your intentions are and how you see me. And we can go from there. But I'm an absolute glutton for emotional punishment. I really don't think that will work in this case.
But if anything, just be honest with him, answer his questions as best you can. Try to be patient with him. He should get the idea pretty soon. But then again I've seen this happen so many times, some guys can man up and just take it in stride and still be good friends, others don't handle it well at all.
It's tough call. I hope what ever you decide to do pans out ok.
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